Finding your Support

Throughout life people come and go and I believe that having a solid support system is very important. Three years ago, I decided to pack up my whole life and move from Alberta to Ontario to pursue a relationship. One thing that I realized is that over time I became more and more distant from my friends and family. My first year in Ontario was hard, I was in a new place, I didn’t know anyone and I didn’t have a job and it took its tole on me. I was still talking with my friends, but I would say that everything was fine even though I knew that wasn’t true.

Making the decision to move was a really hard choice and I didn’t want my friends and family to worry about me or tell me I told you so because if it didn’t work out. So instead of talking to them during that difficult time I decided I could handle everything on my own. After a year and a half of feeling alone I needed to take the time to reconnect with my friends. I also realized that if I truly wanted to feel supported, I had to first be honest with myself before being honest with my friends.

I consider my friends like family and once I was able to let go of the thoughts of them judging me, I started to feel that support I was longing and hoping for. I was also able to recognize that not everyone around you needs to be in your life and this doesn’t have to be a negative thing. As people we grow and evolve and overtime you can grow apart and that’s ok.

Being self aware and recognizing growth within yourself makes you evaluate all aspects of your life and part of that I believe is knowing who you want to surround yourself with. Having a good support system is having people around who are honest, these are the people who are going to tell you how it is in a loving way. You also want to have people around you who will encourage you, these are your biggest cheer leaders and they want to see you succeed in whatever you do. Lastly you want to surround yourself with people who are not going to judge or look down on you but be the person you can lean on in your low times.

“Surround yourself with people who don't just ask how you are doing. Surround yourself with people who make an effort to make sure they are part of the reason you are doing so well.” ― Jennae Cecelia